No one is perfect, not a single one, not even Beyonce (I know, shocker).
It's not easy even on the best of days to take a step back and admit when you're in the wrong or to notice the flaws you may have. I'm not talking about sitting down and picking yourself apart, but rather to acknowledge the power we have over our own situations and that certain attributes can indeed affect a situation sometimes for the worst.
I'm talking about how sometimes we like to push the blame onto others or to pretend we didn't contribute to the situation when subconsciously we really did.
To put it simply, think about a fight, a moment that really frustrates you, or a situation that involved you. Now think about the role you played in that moment and how it affected you and why. Do you wish you could go back and change how you reacted or how it played out? Did certain attributes play a part in this and was it for the best or the worst?
Personally, I've been thinking about a situation a lot that turned out pretty negative, long story short my flaws affected how I reacted.
I failed to see both sides of the argument because I felt like I had loyalty to one side more than the other, and I tend to bottle things up a lot until I explode and then everything comes out all at once. Sometimes my loyalty and my ability to keep things inside can affect relationships and situations in a negative light despite it being a positive attribute other times.
Trust me I have plenty of flaws; I get moody real quick, I don't like to plan my life step by step yet I hate being disorganised, I'm terrible at answering messages and calls, I hate mess yet I don't like to throw anything out just incase, I act like I'm a child high on sugar 90% of the time and I trust people way too easily.
I could sit here and write a million flaws but that's not the point of this blog, instead I can see my involvement in situations from my flaws because a conflict is never one sided. Take responsibility for your actions, both good and bad, not all of us are perfect and no one person thinks the same. Listen to your gut instinct but also remember that you can turn a situation around by instead choosing a different attribute, or turning that flaw into something positive.
I feel emotions quite strongly which can be a positive attribute especially for my writing and for understanding why people feel the way they do, but sometimes I use these emotions without thinking first and I end up hurting people. Take your attributes and your flaws and flip it to make it a positive one.
Flaws are never really flaws to begin with if we let them control us instead of controlling them that's when they become a flaw. My advice, sit down and write out your negative attributes then figure out a way to flip it to make it a positive one.
T xx
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