It can be a hard to let go of something, whether that something is a person, a memory, a place, or a feeling.
The truth is, sometimes you'll hurt and that hurt will never go away, but day by day it will get easier and then someone or something else will come along that will give you purpose again, make you feel passionate, and that feeling won't hurt so much.
One of my own personal struggles is learning to let go, in particular, food pantry items and random belongings that I argue to everyone could be crucial or important one day. That's exactly where I and many others needs to begin; yes it could be important one day but is it so important to you now that it has to stay? I'm not saying throw out all food you're definitely not going to eat today but apply this to friendships, relationships, or work situations. Are you constantly hoping things will be better in the future? Are you just playing the waiting game and idly sitting back whilst nothing changes?
The most important part is realising why you need to let go. Is your work place making you miserable? Or is your past failed relationships holding you back from doing what you want to do now?
I'm still working on myself all the time, and that's an important part to growth, but sometimes I'm placed in a situation that makes me feel uncomfortable and miserable.
So why do I continue to stay? Everyone has a different reason but I think for many it's because we don't want to give up, we don't want to see something we've worked so hard on just disappear, like a relationship or the job we've been slaving at for years.
You've put effort and time into something and you want to see the reward, but trust me when I say letting go isn't the end of the world and that this can open you up to so many new opportunities you didn't think you could achieve.
Too often we stress and dwell about the past, but in truth we can't go back and change the situation (although that would be amazing, can someone create a time machine already, can you imagine going back to when Elvis was alive?),and we can't predict what will happen.
So you have to let it go.
Take a deep breathe, realise that you have to look out for your own health and sanity. Sometimes friendships and relationships come to an end, it doesn't mean that you didn't love them or the time you spent with them but in this moment you don't need each other anymore and you have to move on and let go.
It will hurt, it will always hurt; I look back and wish I spent more time with my grandfather before he left, or sometimes I tell myself I should have tried harder in a friendship, or said something different, but over time the hurt hurts a little less and I've been introduced to many new opportunities and friendships that wouldn't have been possible if I didn't learn to let go.
Learn to let go so you can continue living your life to your full potential. Take a leap of faith in yourself and trust your instincts.
T, x
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